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Re: Vietnamese Men In General – Good or Bad?

RYora — Sun, 24 Dec 2017 03:31:20 -0000

I met a half viet, half chinese in an online game and we've been friends for a month until he started to confess that he had feelings for me and wanted to try dating. It was my first time doing an online dating specially when we were 8,000 miles apart. It was hard but it was the best days of my life. He was kind, he's caring, he listens to my problems, he showed me genuine efforts and it was the reason I fell in love with him eventhough I keep telling myself that it was just a game. We talk through texting, voice calling and video chatting everyday and every night we would leave the phone on call while the other one is sleeping. That's how close we were. We talked about lots of stuff and about the plans we want to achieve after school. It's to meet in person.

6 months had passed and he suddenly became cold. He never texted me again first thing which was suspicious. He stopped greeting me goodmornings and goodnights. His text messages became so short like one word for every sentence I send. He stopped becoming interested in calling and he even always have the reason that it was because his parents are awake and they might hear him (eventhought we talk a lot even if his parents were there).

There are a lot of times when I get jealous because he had a lot of girl friends in game and when we were talking through call, he was busy texting them that sometimes he ignores me. And the last thing that made me break up with him was when I found he made another wife in the game. And I tried to leave him, yes he stopped me a lot of times and says that I was just overreacting. He never contacted me after. And just like that, he forgot all about me just because of some chick he found ad wasting those efforts we did for each other. The sleepless nights while talking to each other. Everything. He wasted all of that. He's just a lying piece of bastard that only wanted someone to play with. I broke up because if he did that once, he'll do that again for sure.

I would never marry a vietnamese guy for sure.

Re: Vietnamese Men In General – Good or Bad?

Jappy — Sun, 10 Sep 2017 00:17:24 -0000

Vn guys tend to have high ego, bad temper and they always think they are above everybody else.. and have the mentality that the female should be taking care of them which are totally opposite from guys in other countries.

Re: Vietnamese Men In General – Good or Bad?

Vinh Pham — Tue, 02 Aug 2016 20:02:39 -0000

I got laid on first date with girls many time. When she's asleep I would probably sleep too.

Re: Vietnamese Men In General – Good or Bad?

Simca — Thu, 03 Mar 2016 20:52:20 -0000

From my personal experience, (it only concerns one vietnamese man and it could rather be because he's a sick, disgusting sociopathic, narcissistic sorry excuse of a human being/ animal rather than him being vietnamese) my mother really hit the jackpot in terms of abusive husband and I suffered through years of death threats, physical violence and humiliation that I am starting little by little to recover from. Through my childhood, I could always observe my father verbally abusing my mother, calling her names (he called her a donkey everytime he spoke about her because according to him they are hideous and stupid animals (to me, it is kind of the two worst things you can call someone) (he said later that it was an affectionate nickname but I clearly remember her snapping and on the verge of really losing it and asking me never to call her that)), constantly criticizing her appearance (thinking back, I think that she even developped a eating disorder and she freaked out whenever she had a pimple), criticizing and mocking everything she does, wears (he often said that the food she spent the entire day slaving in the kitchen to get out was disgusting, unhealthy... However, I thought that it was delicious, and I remember guests at our house praising her for it and asking for second and third servings). I never saw him hitting her but I clearly remember an incident when I was four and she held me tightly as he was violently pounding at the locked washroom door and howling foul insults and threatening to hurt us. We would often hide during his tantrums when he broke things and hurt our pets (thinking about it, I feel really sickened because in the aftermath he never apologized and I can remember a proud smile with vicious satisfaction on his face when he recounted the incidents). The saddest part of the story was that the poor woman couldn't leave the pig for a good 25 years because of her low self-confidence and insecurities (throughout her childhood she was repeatedly abused by her vietnamese foster family). She finally cheated on him and they got divorced (however my father got full custody of me :( ). Growing up under this man was a nightmare. He constantly called me "mentally ill", threatened to hurt and kill me (I remember him trying to hang me at four years old (he attached a knotted cord on one of his workout bars) and I remember screaming, trying to fight him off and begging for my life), forced me to wear cheap boy's clothes (he refused to replace my torn jeans that I outgrown by a few years (they went from my ankles to half my calf and I couldn't get inside them anymore even though I was really skinny) and forced me to have hideous short haircuts (he would scream shorter, shorter to the hairdresser that eventually refused to cut more of my hair saying that the skin of my scalp would be seen if it is cut any shorter). I remember that through high school, I was often one of the people with the highest score of my grade but feel a lot of fear and apprehension when I have to show him my report card. He made me take karate lessons, fencing lessons, gymnastic lessons, tae kwon do, piano and violin all at the same time and expected me explicitly to be able to compete on olympic, world championship levels and to be accepted into the music conservatory and he would look at me as if I was a piece of trash floating in the sewer and verbally abuse me whenever I didn't meet his expectations. I remember crying of emotional pain and hurting badly inside while having a violent dressing down because of a disastrous performance at a tae kwon do practice when I was just too tired that I couldn't move (I woke up around 4:30 am to have extra martial arts practice and skipped lunch for extra music practice and was just drained at the end of the day). At the start, I liked trying new things but in the end I don't even want to touch these things again right now because I associate playing these instruments and practicing these sports with fear, anxiety and humiliation. I remember once being questioned at school for a big, purple bruised eye (I still have a scar over my right eye made by his engineer ring on the pinky finger) (He punched me in the face after I couldn't calm myself fast enough after he punched me in the crotch (there was blood after in my underwear) because I kicked too high and wasn't protecting my crotch while I was practicing on my own at home (didn't see the point to protect my crotch since hitting there would get someone disqualified). Overall, it was quite a nasty childhood and writing this made me cry and relive some painful things (it seemed over the top but trust me it is real and I wished more than anyone that it wasn't). I know that monstruous douchebags and failures as fathers, husbands or human beings aren't exclusive to vietnamese people, but I feel that I would have a harder time to trust anyone that I can remotely associate to my aggressor. Anyway, if anyone is straggled with a sociopath as I was just know that you are not alone and whatever they say you are at least a thousand time worth more than they could ever be worth.

Re: Vietnamese Men In General – Good or Bad?

HCMC Guerin — Fri, 22 Jan 2016 03:08:04 -0000

Same here, sister.

Re: Vietnamese Men In General – Good or Bad?

HCMC Guerin — Fri, 22 Jan 2016 03:07:28 -0000

Vietnamese men are very very good.

Re: Vietnamese Men In General – Good or Bad?

Mizzy — Sun, 22 Feb 2015 17:40:50 -0000

Total agree with your comment. Once they know they have you, they show their nastiness.

Re: Vietnamese Men In General – Good or Bad?

Mizzy — Sun, 22 Feb 2015 17:38:46 -0000

Agree with your comment!

Re: Vietnamese Men In General – Good or Bad?

Mizzy — Sun, 22 Feb 2015 17:37:18 -0000

You are right on the money!

Re: Vietnamese Men In General – Good or Bad?

Mizzy — Sun, 22 Feb 2015 17:36:06 -0000

I know what you are talking about as I see it all around me.

Re: Vietnamese Men In General – Good or Bad?

Mizzy — Sun, 22 Feb 2015 17:34:09 -0000

Most Vietnamese guy that I know are good for a while. But then, once they are bad they are bad. Lots of Vietnamese guys cheat on their wives and I have seen lots abandon their wife and kids with no remorse or support for their kids.

Re: Cambodia Imposes Age & Income Limits on Foreign Marriage, Vietnam Next?

Joseph Otter — Tue, 17 Feb 2015 11:35:28 -0000

It can't be too hard to circumvent this law. If it were me I'd personally just buy my Cambodian girlfriend a passport, take her over to Thailand, get legally married there, then come back to Cambodia to have a traditional ceremony. Of course you might have to bribe the local police if they showed up to the ceremony. I'm pretty sure the Cambodian government would have no choice but to recognize your marriage.

Re: Vietnamese Men In General – Good or Bad?

Kiwistar — Mon, 16 Feb 2015 22:07:52 -0000

My Vietnamese wife recently returned to Vietnam to do IVF. Recently, my wife started professional driving instructions with a 62 year old Vietnamese man. On the third day my wife and the instructor, (who is married with an adult family) whilst driving alone, was told by him that it wasn't uncommon for young country girls to txt instructors asking for sexual favours in exchange for money. I was quite disturbed when I heard of this conversation. As a Westerner, we would consider this kind of conversation in a professional capacity as totally inappropriate. When I questioned my wife as to why she thought he raised this subject she explained that it is just "normal" chit chat and or simply making conversation and that she saw no harm in it. Don't get me wrong, I trust my wife implicitly. But sometimes I think she is very naïve. Just to give some background, my wife is 41, has never been married or had children, and has lived at home with her parents all her life. She is very well travelled, intelligent and very well educated. Most of her close or best friends are men.
Last night, much to my horror, she said she had talked to her instructor about the benefits of sex toys (which I believe are illegal in Vietnam) and that in Western society it was not uncommon for couples to use sex toys as a way of overcoming sexual inadequacies in relationships. She again said she felt that this was quite a "normal" and "harmless" kind of conversation in Vietnam between men and women and that she was sharing this topic with her driving instructor as he had a friend who had a dysfunctional sexual relationship his wife. She saw it as way to help or give advise. She also stated that Vietnamese men do not have dirty minds like some Western men. She felt my thoughts were a "cross cultural" misunderstanding. I would be interested to hear from any Vietnamese men (or women) to give their thoughts on this kind of conversation and how they would see or view this.

Re: Vietnamese Men In General – Good or Bad?

flygirl60 — Sat, 07 Feb 2015 23:18:13 -0000

Thanks Hung. It's definitely an experience I wouldn't wish upon anyone. I just have to use it as a learning experience. People who do these sorts of things are everywhere so I just have to be more careful next time.

Re: Vietnamese Women Marry Foreigners

Ryan — Mon, 02 Feb 2015 08:26:23 -0000

Oh well . first sorry for my bad English since my country just use it for second language. first i'm not a good guys not exactly bad but not good either. i meet this Vietnamese girl at my own country pub. they have they passport but they also mention been cheated for coming to my country. I meet one and introduce to other and within one week the other girl tell me her mother sick need money. sound familiar? Haha. Oh well i'm not actually rich but i just don't like take risk even if it is very high percentage it is not true she is alone here at my country. if it is true her mother will die from it. If it is fake i just lose some money i can get back sooner or later.
Is not much but still i don't have enough i loan from bank is not much roughly 600 usd if converted. but my earning is roughly 900 usd per month i got my commitment. i seriously wanna take the first girl as my wife i ask her how much she need for her family each month if i really take her as my wife. she just tell me 500 usd each month oh well she is honest with me I also honest with her i'm sorry even i really like her and want her to be my wife it just not possible since i'm from asian country as well i got my own family to take care also. so at the end i just tell her sorry it just cannot be work out. but i tell her i will help her and one of her friend anywhere i can within my capability. if i tell friend or other about it they will just said too many people suffer and got bad living environment . There is no way you can help all. yup that might be true but if every people think like that then there will never be anyone helping people. i'm not that old or young by the way 30 mid.

Oh I might be out of topic a bit I just want to tell if you really want to marry someone just make sure you can take care of them, they family, and yourself. don't be selfish brat just think about yourself and your soon to be wife or whatever is your plan.love is one thing very subjective example you see some gorgeous girl with ugly old guys with a lot money. why a girl cannot love a guys because he got a lot of money and a girl can love a guys because he is handsome??? I might think like that when i'm young but now is like what i said.

If you can keep being rich ya she will love you. but if you cannot then sorry .if she really only love your money. she may or may not love your other good point but she is a person . have mind to think. if you is poor and she still want to be with you that is good also. good luck anywhere and i also wish myself good luck :).. too bad i'm not as rich cannot support her family or else i don't really care her bad point since i like her good point.

Re: Vietnamese Men In General – Good or Bad?

Hung Vu — Sun, 01 Feb 2015 20:46:07 -0000

Even here I can perceive the arrogance and big ego manifesting themselves. The "BEST"? LOL. I can easily refute your gravely mistaken comment by dozens of counterexample.

Re: Vietnamese Men In General – Good or Bad?

Hung Vu — Sun, 01 Feb 2015 20:42:17 -0000

We are kindred spirits then. BTW, I am very glad I am not a typical Vietnamese. I am inclined toward self-effacement, humility and life-long learning, and refrain from any acts and behaviors that characterize the Vietnamese

Re: Vietnamese Men In General – Good or Bad?

Hung Vu — Sun, 01 Feb 2015 20:32:55 -0000

being. Remove the '?' at the end.

Re: Vietnamese Men In General – Good or Bad?

Hung Vu — Sun, 01 Feb 2015 20:31:51 -0000

I am truly sorry for the terrible experience that befell you. I hope it will not leave any emotional scar on you. I am infused with disgust upon reading what he did to you. What a despicable being?

Re: Vietnamese Men In General – Good or Bad?

Sun, 01 Feb 2015 07:18:36 -0000

Agreed. Not intelligent at all. Just transparently sly and slimy.

Re: Vietnamese Men In General – Good or Bad?

fliz — Sat, 31 Jan 2015 09:27:43 -0000

Obviously as someone called fuckinyobitch you're a world authority on international affairs.

Re: Vietnamese Men In General – Good or Bad?

John — Fri, 30 Jan 2015 23:21:18 -0000

Vietnamese men are not smart. Certainly not academically. Their king-ego's and stubborn refusal to admit that they do not know everything already prevents them from being open to learning anything new. Street-smart? Yes.. they are good at covering their ass when something goes wrong. The overall issue to me is that they do not seem capable to ask and answer the basic "why" questions in life.

Re: Vietnamese Men In General – Good or Bad?

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Re: Vietnamese Women Marry Foreigners

Sonali Chandna — Mon, 26 Jan 2015 04:24:48 -0000

I believe there is a trend perhaps in many countries around the world to seek out a marriage partner in another part of the world, there are actually international marriage dating sites 100% free like Meetoutside where it is possible to search through profiles of members from other countries, and then it is possible to see if they are ready for a cross border relationship. So be it Vietnamese, Romanian, or Mexican, this is the trend in lots of countries.

Re: Vietnamese Women Marry Foreigners

youresillygoat — Fri, 23 Jan 2015 09:14:43 -0000

hey, me ;pthough i dont wanna go to an American University as i dont love the US that much i do love English and m willing to devote my lifetime to learning it